first of all, good evening to all the readers... May u are in a good shape... if not, i hope u will get better soon...
ok, today post is about The Power of Posture... Though i just copied or taken this from some site.... Before i go more deeply on this matter, or it is better to say that before I paste the article, i want to explain briefly how did i find this article.....
Basically, i always spend my time online, facebooking and etc.... then, i clicked on the economist post and started to find the articles/news that i am interested in... after for a while i found 1, that is the power of posture...but i have reached my limit of viewing article on the economist site....huhuhuhuhu... it was not a big deal for me to find that topic coz i got th uncle google...hahahahha
i went online and let my mind, my eyes wandering in the lifeless world a.k.a internet in my current view(today)...ok....let look at the article....
How you stand can be as important as
what you say. Here are the ten categories of behavior you should monitor to
improve your "presence" and effectiveness.
by Nick Morgan
The way you stand could change your
life. Immediately. For businesspeople, stance is an important indicator of how
deeply you are engaged with your job, how much you believe in the products you
are selling, how confident you are that your company will survive.
And that's just for starters. Did
you know that you are likely to make or break a sale by what you do in the
first fifteen seconds after entering the customer's office—before you say
anything? Or that you can increase your attractiveness to others—and your
success in your career—by how you move your head? Or that the seat you take at
a table will determine, in part, the direction a negotiation will take?
These insights and many more are at
the heart of modern communications research, and Teach Yourself Body
Language, by Gordon Wainright (McGraw-Hill, 2003), summarizes much of it in
very practical terms that readers can put to work immediately to change their
lives.
Take stance. Wainwright suggests an
experiment in which you stand straight, tuck your tummy in, hold your head
high, and smile at those you meet. Do this for a week, concentrating especially
on those who normally don't seem to be very friendly in your workplace.
Wainwright predicts, based on many such experiments, that you'll find people
treat you differently immediately. You'll garner more respect, you'll be taken
more seriously, and you'll find that even the grumpy ones warm up to you.
Your stance, broadly speaking,
signals to the world how energetic, confident, and powerful you are. Slumped
shoulders, a downcast gaze, a slow pace, and a sagging belly are taken by the
world to mean that you lack confidence, that you don't have much energy, and
that you are probably less important, successful, and powerful as a result.
These impressions may be neither accurate nor fair, but they are the inevitable
results of the fleeting impressions we tend to get of one another during the
course of a busy day.
Those are just the fleeting
impressions. Stance, and what used to be called your bearing, can play much
more important roles when you're negotiating an important contract or trying to
close a sale. We like to deal with winners, and we are more inclined to yield
negotiating points to people who appear to be operating from a position of
strength.
And what about those first fifteen
seconds after entering a room? Wainwright reports research that measured the
status of people who enter an office. Low-status people tend to linger at the
door. Medium-status people go in halfway. And high-status people go in all the
way to the desk and sit down next to the occupant.
To increase your attractiveness,
Wainwright suggests ten categories of behavior to monitor and improve. Studies
show that attractive people tend to be more successful, everything else being
equal, so more than mere likability is at stake here. The ten categories are:
Eye contact: The more the better, up to visual intrusiveness.
Facial expression: Be lively, smile a lot, look interested.
Head movements: Nod to show interest, keep your chin up.
Gestures: Be expressive and open, without overdoing it.
Posture: Stand erect, lean forward to show interest, lean back to be
informal.
Proximity and orientation: Get as close as you can to people without crowding.
Bodily contact: Touch as often as you can without causing offense.
Appearance and physique: Go for color in dress, fitness in physique.
Timing and synchronization: Speed up your activities to just before the point of
inefficiency.
Nonverbal aspects of speech: Try to balance your need to talk with the need to listen.
If taking on all of these desiderata
sounds like a tall order, take heart in the knowledge that doing even a few of
them will begin to increase your attractiveness to others. You don't have to
manage them all at once. In fact, you don't have to manage them at all, if you
can find enthusiasm for your job, your colleagues, and your activities in
general. If you are enthusiastic, you'll discover that you'll naturally
increase your attractiveness by unconsciously doing many of the behaviors on
the list.
taken from http://hbswk.hbs.edu/archive/3597.html
u might also interested in these following links:
i think u should try to click link no 4...hehehhehehe
not to forget, i am a muslim and for me to abandon my religious teaching is not a good practice.... Muslims are required to perform Solat, (prayer) 5 times daily... during performing Solat, we are advised to straighten our body during takbiratul, ruku, and even during sujud...surprisingly, many of Muslims are not realized it yet.....
when i think back, have a deep thought, wondering and analyze, i found that Islam is a perfect religion...... in its teaching, it always has a wisdom behind what Allah has ordered and forbidden.... there are many wisdom lies behind Islam teaching which basically from Quran and Sunnah..... in my point of view, refer back to the Last Sermon of Prophet, he reminded Muslims to hold on Quran and Sunnah and also there is a lot of reminder for us,....
Yet, Muslims are branded as terrorist.... Many people accused that Islam is the religion of terrorism....Hum... for those who do not know Islam, i hope u try to get to know its teaching.... and it is better if u be a muslim.....
thats all...before that, one islamic reference about what i has written above....
I am only able to give this link because of time constraint..... I got to spend time to read something and attend a meeting with my members after Asr'..... see u soon....
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